“Nam Myoho Renge Kyo” – The Physics of Chanting… by Emily Maroutian

“Nam Myoho Renge Kyo” – The Physics of Chanting… by Emily Maroutian

It is natural for any rational, reasonably intelligent person to question a process. We may believe in something on the power of our faith – but often, we feel a need to validate the same with logic and reasoning.

That is what happened with me when I joined Soka Gakkai Internation (SGI) www.sgi.org a few recent months ago. While chanting “Nam Myoho Renge Kyo” as a solution to all my problems and for personal transformation and human revolution – I was silently seeking logical validation. The validation that nailed it for me was an explanation on “Nam Myoho Renge Kyo” by Emily Maroutian.

Emily Maroutian is a writer, poet, life coach and philosopher. She is the author of several books including the bestseller – The Energy of Emotions. I quote as under, unedited, her explanation of the mystic chant of “Nam Myoho Renge Kyo”.

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(The Physics of Chanting… by Emily Maroutian)

When I first heard about the SGI practice of chanting, “Nam Myoho Renge Kyo,” I was skeptical and doubtful that it would actually “cause” anything to happen. After all, what could repeating a few words do anyway? However, I was open-minded enough to try it.

I sat on my bed, closed my eyes and began to chant. I chanted for about five minutes and I immediately began to feel my body vibrate from the sound my vocal cords were making. I experienced a tingling sensation in the palm of my hands and the rhythm of the chant made my body rock back and forth. My body’s physical reaction to the chanting frightened me and so I stopped. Does this really work? I thought. But how can it? Then it suddenly hit me! Physics!

Physics’ current theory of everything, String Theory, dictates that the entire universe is made up of tiny vibrating strings. The underlining fundamental make-up of all things, including you and I, are minuscule invisible strings. Much like the strings on a guitar, they vibrate and play notes. Moreover, since sound is a vibration, not only is the entire universe vibrating but it is also playing a symphony.

So how does chanting work? When an opera singer hits a high note, she can break glass from across the room without ever touching anything. In physics, this is called resonance. Her vocal note and the glass’s vibrational note resonate and that causes the shattering effect.

You and I are constantly vibrating through our being. We attract (law of attraction) into our lives whatever it is that harmonizes with our note (law of harmonic vibrations). This is why you can meet someone and feel as though you have known them forever; both of you are harmonizing. They resonate with you and you resonate with them.

We can also repel opposing vibrations (law of repulsion) and keep away situations and people that are vibrating on opposite levels. This is why people who have been in our lives for a long time can suddenly decide they want to move on. Our shift has repelled them because our vibrations don’t harmonize.

If this is the case, then let them go and have faith that it’s all for the best. If you are shifting positively and people are dropping out of your life, let them go. You can’t hold back growth and transformation by holding onto someone who “needs” to leave. Holding on might require that you have to shift into a level that is unhealthy or negative. It may take time, but they will return once they can harmonize with you once again.

When we chant something as powerful and beneficial as “Nam Myoho Renge Kyo,” we shift something within our being, which then alters what we attract into our lives. We alter the level in which we are vibrating on and that attracts a different level of people, things and situations.

In the same way, when we are depressed and carrying around self-pity, we vibrate on a level that attracts things that keep us feeling depressed. It also attracts more reasons, situations and issues that make us continue to pity ourselves. It is the Karma that we create and recreate over and over again.

If we were to chant, “I hate my life.” repeatedly, we would attract and harmonize with people and situations that reinforce that statement. We also reinforce it with our thoughts, emotions and our whole being.

Our environment will support our being, regardless of how positive or negative we are. So we must not only chant “Nam Myoho Renge Kyo,” but we must become it as well. Our being must vibrate on the level of “Nam Myoho Renge Kyo.” Our lives must align with it in order for its true power to be unleashed in our lives and our environment.

Who we are is the biggest cause in our lives. Anyone at anytime can change their note. It begins with “Nam Myoho Renge Kyo”. When we shift, our environment shifts. Every member of SGI knows this through experience, now there is a physical explanation of how it works.

Resonance, String Theory and the laws of attraction and harmony are what come into play when we devote ourselves to the mystical law of cause and effect through sound and vibration. Nichiren understood this hundreds of years before science discovered it. Now I understand it as well. Through this understanding, we can have faith that when we chant we are aligning ourselves with the highest good in the universe.

My experience with chanting was very positive and life changing. Even though I chanted for only about five minutes, it only took a matter of four hours for my environment to respond to my request. After that experience, I began chanting everyday and continued to receive the same level of response from my environment.

We chant because it begins with our words and moves through our thoughts, feelings, actions and being. Then it resonates in our environment and then the world. But it begins within us. The more we gather and the more we chant, the more energy we feed into our goal of a peaceful loving world. So never forget fellow Buddhas that the universe is playing a beautiful symphony in which you and I are notes. And when we all gather, we make beautiful music together.”

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Garuda Puran Saar – The Essence Of Garuda Puran

Garuda Puran Saar – The Essence Of Garuda Puran

VEDAS, UPANISHADS, PURANAS

  1. A `Puran’ is a classification of Sanskrit sacred writings, which are very ancient. They date back to almost 4th century AD. They trace and document the journey of Hinduism by including mythology and folklore in their writings. Puranas are a common-man interpretation and explanation of the more complicated higher texts – the Upanishads and the Vedas.
  2. Ved Vyasa, the narrator of Mahabharata, is considered to be the compiler of the Puranas.
  3. There are 18 main Puranas – known as 18 maha-Puranas. They are dedicated to the the Holy Trinity of Hinduism – the Trimurti –Brahma the Creator, Vishnu the Preserver, and Shiva the Destroyer.
  4. The 18 maha-Puranas are: – Agni Puran, Bhaagvat Puran, Brahma Puran, Brahmaanda Puran, Brahmavaivarta Puran, Garuda Puran, Harivansh Puran, Kurma Puran, Linga Puran, Maarkandeya Puran, Matsya Puran, Naarada Puran, Padma Puran, Shiva Puran, Skanda Puran, Vaaman Puran, Varaaha Puran, Vishnu Puran.

GARUDA PURAN

  1. Of the 18 maha-Puranas – Garuda-Puran holds a peculiar belief and status. It is the only Puran that is supposed to be chanted after the demise of a person; and especially in the 13-day mourning period that follows the demise.
  2. I have often observed that the very mention of this Puran generates fear and apprehension. It is often touted as a painful, fearful description of a soul’s after-death journey. It is referred to as `Narak-Darshan’ (vision of hell). It is also associated with many superstitions such as – it is inauspicious to keep the text at home; it is inauspicious to read it in any other period except the mourning period etc. etc. Nothing could be further than the truth.
  3. Those who are conversant with south-India’s Telugu language are encouraged to listen to the online commentary of Garuda-Puran  by Pandit Sri Samaveda Shanmukha Sarma – for insights, clarity and understanding of this needlessly feared text.

WHAT THEN, IS THE GARUDA PURAN?

  1. It is merely a description of the journey of the departed soul over the 13 days that it takes, after death, from Preta-Lok to Pitru-Lok.
  2. Preta-Lok is the space, the dimension, between earth and heavens. This is the space where the soul is not attached either to the earthly material plane or the celestial heavenly plane. It is the connecting space from one dimension to another.
  3. Pitru-Lok is the lower heaven designated for departed souls. Here they attain a semi-Godly status.
  4. From our earthly perspective, we presume this period of transition to be confusing and scary for the departed soul. But in reality that is not so. Whatever be the soul’s earthly karma – there is enough guidance from heavens above for every soul to make this transition smoothly.
  5. But in our earthly endeavor to aid and assist the soul – we make this journey along with our departed – through words, chants, emotions and descriptive imagination. It is our earthly way of accompanying the soul on its final journey in its present departed form.
  6. In Hindu tradition, it’s a mark of respect to walk parting guests up to the last gates. In line with this tradition, we listen to the Garuda-Puran over a period of 13 days – this is the time that the soul takes, to make this journey to the next dimension.
  7. We follow the soul with our emotions; we offer help and aid through symbolic ceremonies; we try to feel its pain and pleasure; we maintain the serenity it needs to convey a sense a loss of a co-passenger whose station has arrived.

THE ORIGIN OF GARUDA PURAN

  1. It is a dialogue between Lord Vishnu and Garuda. Garuda is a bird, an Eagle, the king of birds. He is the vahana (vehicle) of Lord Vishnu.
  2. Garuda-Puran is a series of questions raised by Garuda and answered by Lord Vishnu.
  3. According to Hindu texts, all departed souls gather at the feet of Lord Vishnu – where begins an assessment of their past life and deeds – and where their future life will be written for them. This is the spot at which they gather to, from departed lives – and this is the spot from which they disperse into their future lives for fulfillment of good / bad karma, till finally they attain Moksha (liberation from the cycle of life and death).
  4. It is said in Garuda-Puran – that Garuda was watching from heavens above, the 13 earthly-day journey of every departed soul, till it reached his Lord’s feet. This prompted him to ask questions which were then answered by Lord Vishnu.
  5. This is the simple dialogue that we yearn to listen to, when we hear the Garuda-Puran.
  6. But over hundreds and thousands of years, many melodramatic descriptions, which were once part of Hindu folklore, were intercepted into the original Garuda-Puran – giving it the fearsome look that it carries today. Needless to say, social biases and social superstitions have more than seeped in into our interpreted versions of Puranas. Hence it becomes important to periodically separate the chaff from the grain of every Puranic text.

 GARUDA PURAN SAAR – THE ESSENCE OF GARUDA PURAN:

THE 13-DAY JOURNEY FROM PRETA-LOK TO PITRU-LOK  

  • The following is a series of questions and answers, asked by Garuda and answered by Lord Vishnu:
  • Garuda: How does death occur?
  • Vishnu: The energy that drives the human body is called Prana-shakti – the God-force energy. When this energy leaves the human body, then all cells come to a standstill. This state is called death.
  • This is when the soul finds its answer to the eternal question “Who am I?” I am not the body; I am not the mind; I am not the intellect; I am not the ego. I am simply Prana-shakti – the God-force energy, the God-particle.
  • Garuda: With what energy does the soul identify with?
  • Vishnu: When Prana-shakti is in incarnate form, the soul identifies with body energy, mind energy, its earthly intellect and its ego. But when Prana-shakti detaches itself from incarnate form, then it identifies only with God-energy.
  • Garuda: When the earthly form is vibrating with Prana-shakti, then the soul identifies with everything else except that – but when the bodily form is bereft of Prana-shakti, then the identification happens. Why this contradiction?
  • Vishnu: But isn’t that what is called Vishnu-maya, the great Cosmic-illusion? The challenge of every bodily incarnation is to overcome the urge to identify with every other energy except the true God-force energy, the Prana-shakti. Souls will continue to be born and reborn till they can conquer this illusion.
  • Garuda: If the soul is God-force energy, the God-particle, the Prana-shakti – then how can it be touched with good karma or bad karma? How can it feel pain or pleasure? How can it enjoy or suffer?
  • Vishnu: Prana-shakti is untouched by karma, pain, pleasure, enjoyment or suffering. But Prana-shakti becomes entrapped and encased in a web of emotional energies, collected through earthly incarnations.
  • When a person dies, his body, mind and earthly intellect are consumed by the 5 elements – the body is placed on Earth; then bathed with Water; then Fire is offered; then the fumes merge with Air; and then the soul becomes one with Cosmic Space.
  • But ego remains. Ego cannot be consumed by the 5 elements. Ego has to be voluntarily released by the soul; if this does not happen, then soul energies continue to identify with – I, me, mine, you, yours… etc.
  • So when Prana-shakti leaves the body, ego travels with it. Ego creates emotional identification and emotional energies. These energies travel with the soul encasing the soul in a web.
  • Karma, pain, pleasure, enjoyment, suffering etc. are emotions that arise from ego. As these emotions are still attached to the soul, the soul feels them, and is affected by them.
  • Garuda: How can soul rid itself of the trappings of ego and emotions?
  • Vishnu: What has been gathered on earth must be left on earth only. Hence the process of rebirth. The soul goes back with its emotional baggage and with the objective of clearing them.
  • Both good and bad emotions have to be cleared with help of earthly deeds. This action again forms new karma and sometimes new emotions. Some souls succeed but some come back with yet more. It is not easy. Emotions of love and affection are very difficult to let go of; they are very comforting; but they are very binding.
  • Garuda: What happens after death? After Prana-shakti detaches itself from the body?
  • Vishnu: The soul is free but remains attached to its earthly possessions and near, dear ones through emotions. Either through its own emotions or by the emotions of those who are left behind on earth.
  • The ones who are grieving for the departed have detached themselves from the body, mind, intellect and ego of the dead person – but they still hold on to the memories. Churning of memories creates emotions, either negative or positive. These bind the soul.
  • The stronger the emotional energies, the harder it is for the soul to leave. At this point in time – the soul enters a middle dimension of neither earth not heaven. It is neither earthly nor divine. This mid dimension is called Preta-lok, and the soul assumes the energies of Preta-atma.
  • Garuda: What does a soul experience in Preta-lok?
  • Vishnu: The soul is restless. It wants to begin its journey upward. It wants to go home.
  • Garuda: What should be done to help the soul begin its upward journey?
  • Vishnu: Emotions of the departed soul and emotions of those on earth, still attached to the soul, must be brought under control – this will create an upward passage for the Preta-atma.
  • Garuda: How can emotions of the departed soul and those on earth attached to it be brought under control?
  • Vishnu: By engaging in a series of symbolic ceremonies on earth that will create energies of emotional detachment. The soul is asked “to go”, “to leave”, “to proceed upwards” through these symbolic ceremonies.
  • This process creates detachment between those on earth and their departed. The departed does not receive gross offerings but it receives the subtle emotional energies contained in those offerings. That is what it partakes. Hence, these ceremonies are must be performed.
  • Garuda: What is the next destination for souls from Preta-lok?
  • Vishnu: They have to make the journey to Pitru-lok. That is the dimension where departed souls gather, and it falls in the southern direction.
  • Garuda: Where do souls go from Pitru-lok?
  • Vishnu: Partial energy of every soul remains in Pitru-lok for a certain frame of time. This energy becomes the guiding force for those left behind on earth. Souls never incarnate with their full energy field. Part energy either goes back to earth for rebirth and reincarnation – or it may travel to other heavens (divine dimensions) to rest for a while – or it may even travel to lower dimensions to experience some pain and suffering. It all depends on the soul’s previous karma – and the web of emotional energies it has collected.
  • Garuda: How long does it take for the soul to travel from Preta-lok to Pitru-lok?
  • Vishnu: 12 earthly nights and 13 earthly days.
  • Garuda: What is the significance of this period?
  • Vishnu: The soul disentangles itself from the emotional shackles of its previous body and begins to accept its new subtle body.
  • The earthly body is composed of 5 elements – the Panchamahabhutas – Earth, Fire, Water, Air and Space. The subtle body is composed of only 2 elements – Air and Space. Hence it can exist only in a different dimension.
  • The soul takes time to understand and accept this because of emotional attachment to its previous body, and everything and everyone associated with that body. This disentanglement process is completed within a time frame of 12 nights and 13 days.
  • Garuda: What is to be done on earth during these 12 nights and 13 days?
  • Vishnu: Symbolic ceremonies have to be performed on earth, during these 12 nights and 13 days, to make this disentanglement process easier for the soul.
  • Garuda: Will the soul of the departed be able to receive these earthly offerings?
  • Vishnu: The departed soul cannot receive earthly offerings in their gross form. But it will receive the intentions and the essence of these offerings in subtle form. Prayers and chanting will offer solace to the departed soul. The intentions behind other gross offerings will also reach the soul.
  • Garuda: What are the symbolic ceremonies on earth that will make disentanglement process easier for the departed soul?
  • Vishnu: Day 1: The lifeless body has to be destroyed by the fire element. The person performing the cremation rites offers fire to the head, while facing away from the dead body. It is a symbolic way of saying “we are not looking back, you also don’t, proceed on your journey”.
  • At this point, the un-identification process for the soul begins. The formation of the Preta-body in the ethers above will commence.
  • The 1st symbolic Pindam (rice-ball) offered on this day, will form the Preta’s head.
  • Vishnu: Day 2: The ashes of the cremated earthly body are gathered and collected. This conveys to the soul that change is a natural process. The soul is unable to find its original self in the remains. This strengthens the un-identification process.
  • The 2nd symbolic Pindam (rice-ball) offered on this day, will form the Preta’s ears, eyes and nose.
  • Vishnu: Day 3: The collected bones and ashes are immersed into the water element. Here, the soul observes the detachment of its earthly relatives. How easily they burnt it; how easily they gathered the ashes and bones; how easily they flowed the remains into water. The un-identification process is now strongly set into motion.
  • The 3rd symbolic Pindam (rice-ball) offered on this day, will form the Preta’s neck and chest.
  • Vishnu: Day 4: The soul now devoid of the mortal remains to identify with, hovers around its earthly home and hearth, and around its earthly near and dear ones. It is in an observation mode.
  • The difference between real and false now becomes very clear. It acquires a clear perspective of things and people as they really were; it does a silent review of its own life; it observes the emotions of those left behind on earth; it feels the pleasure and pain of emotions – its own lingering emotions and of those on earth.
  • The 4th symbolic Pindam (rice-ball) offered on this day, will form the Preta’s stomach and abdomen.
  • Vishnu: Day 5: The soul continues the observation activities of the day 4; but restlessness sets in. The soul now starts getting restless about its neither-here-nor-there status. Now it strongly seeks liberation.
  • The 5th symbolic Pindam (rice-ball) offered on this day, will form the Preta’s limbs (arms, hands, legs, feet).
  • Vishnu: Day 6: The soul is now getting ready for its final liberation. The un-identification process in now more or less in place.
  • The 6th symbolic Pindam (rice-ball) offered on this day, will form the Preta’s vital organs.
  • Vishnu: Day 7: The soul starts looking forward to its journey upward.
  • The 7th symbolic Pindam (rice-ball) offered on this day, will form the Preta’s bones, marrow, veins and arteries.
  • Vishnu: Day 8: The soul that was till now feeling the absence of its earthly body – now begins to feel complete in its newly formed ethereal body. The soul understands and realizes that it has acquired a new form.
  • The 8th symbolic Pindam (rice-ball) offered on this day, will form the Preta’s hair and nails.
  • Vishnu: Day 9: The soul gains acceptance of its transition from earthly plane to ethereal place.
  • The 9th symbolic Pindam (rice-ball) offered on this day, will complete the body to perfection and vitality is induced into the Preta-form.
  • Vishnu: Day 10: The soul feels the energy and the totality of its ethereal-form, the Preta-form.
  • It observes the absence of earthly deficiencies and deformities that were part of its earthly incarnation. It feels rejuvenated, energized and complete.
  • It is now rearing to make the journey upward. It waits for the final goodbye before it begins this journey.
  • The 10th symbolic and important Pindam (rice-ball) offered on this day, allows the soul to taste one last time, the sensations of hunger and thirst.
  • On day 10, 5 symbolic Pindams (rice-balls) and water are offered on a triangular stone. The triangle faces south; this is the direction of Yama (God of death).
  • The 1st Pindam at the head of the triangle represents Yama; he will lead the way to Pitru-lok.
  • The 2nd Pindam in the middle of the triangle, represents the departed soul; he will follow Yama to Pitru-lok.
  • The remaining 3 Pindams at the bottom of the triangle are offered for Bhur-Bhuvaha-Swaha – Earth, Preta-lok, Pitru-lok – the 3 dimensions of the departed soul’s final journey.
  • 3 ancestors of the departed soul are invoked for guidance and company: usually from the direct lineage – father of the departed, grandfather of the departed, great grandfather of the departed.
  • The invoked souls, along with the departed soul, accept the gross offerings through the element of Air. With the offering of this last meal, the soul is now instructed “to go” onward on its journey. The Prana-shakti in Preta-form is now airborne. (Om Vayu’hu Prana’ha).
  • Vishnu: It is on this 10th day that the soul’s journey from Preta-lok to Pitru-lok commences. This transition will take 2 nights and 1 day. The soul must now not look back. To facilitate this, the near and dear ones on earth, of the departed soul, must now symbolically detach themselves. By doing so, they allow the departed soul to gain speed on its journey.
  • Vishnu: Day 11: Led by Yama and guided by ancestors, the soul is now presumed to have transited from Preta-lok and entered the higher dimension of Pitru-lok. The departed soul is now no longer a Preta; it has now assumed the form of Pitru (ancestor). Hence, on the 11th day, the 1st formal Pitru pind-daan (offering of the 11th symbolic rice-ball) is performed.
  • Vishnu: Day 12: This is the most important day of the ritualistic ceremonies. The departed soul must now be anointed and declared as an ancestor through the chanting of mantras. The soul will now replace its 3rd ancestor in the lineage.
  • At any given point, there will be only 3 Pitrus (ancestors) in hierarchy who will serve as guiding lights for their lineage.
  • [On the 10th day, the departed soul was guided upwards into Pitru-lok by his departed father, departed grandfather, and departed great grandfather. The great grandfather has now earned the right to move upwards into higher heavens; the departed soul will now join his father and grandfather to form the Pitru-trio for the lineage. This merger and realignment is called Sapindi-karan / Sapindya-karan – which means ‘to become one with others’.]
  • The 12th day Pind-daan to Pitrus involves making 4 symbolic Pindams (rice-balls). These are: 1 for the departed soul + 3 for the Pitrus (ancestors) above it. The Pindam for the departed soul is merged with the remaining 3 Pindams – and the new trio of ancestors is formed. This is the official declaration of the departed soul’s successful transit from Preta-lok to Pitru-lok.
  • Vishnu: Day 13: A religious closing ceremony is performed, where fire is allowed to be lit & Gods are worshipped again. This marks the closure of the impure period of the departed soul’s near and dear ones on earth.
  • Vishnu: There are 2 journeys that are undertaken here: the first real journey by the departed soul; and the second symbolic journey, through thoughts and emotions, by those on earth.
  • We, on earth, try to understand the soul’s heavenly journey; we follow the soul in spirit; we offer solace, guidance and encouragement to the departed soul.
  • Once the soul reaches its heavenly destination, those on earth are once again encased by Vishnu-maya – the great Cosmic-illusion, and life resumes its normal course.
  • Garuda: And my Lord, what happens to the soul after the 13th day? What awaits it?
  • Vishnu: Its life and work on earth is reviewed. Thoughts, words and actions are assessed. And in accordance with laws of karma – the soul will ready itself for the process of rebirth on earth.
  • Garuda: And the cycle continues. That is Vishnu-Maya – the great Cosmic-Illusion.

Afterword:

And THAT is the essence of Garuda-Puran. The language used in translation is simple, modern day English with modern day nuances. Undue dramatization has been done away with; fear-factor, the fear of death and dying has been replaced with an understanding of life-after-death. Amidst all of this – the essence of the original work has been kept unchanged and intact.

Read. Understand. Imbibe. Share. This is the undying principle of Hinduism, and perhaps every other religion – that – there was life before you were born & and there will be life after you die. Life is eternal.

Aap Beeti Lamhey (Autobiographical Moments)

AAP BEETI LAMHEY (AUTOBIOGRAPHICAL MOMENTS)

Aap Beeti Lamhey’ is a phrase I heard being discussed by poet & writer Javed Akhtar, on Tataky. The phrase means `autobiographical moments’ or `moments of our life expressed in our own words’.

‘Aap Beeti Lamhey’ is a collection of 20 real life stories, penned by someone. It speaks of people who have struggled through life – and made it against the odds. These are narratives of people and their lives – as expressed by them, in their own words.

‘Aap Beeti Lamhey’ is apparently a moving, inspiring narration. BUT it was actually something else that caught the poet-writer’s attention:-

The common thread in all the 20 narratives of ‘Aap Beeti Lamhey’ (autobiographical notes) of 20 unrelated people from 20 unrelated walks of life was:-

  1. Each was a struggler
  2. Each was a survivor
  3. Each achieved success stories against the odds
  4. Each was a victim of someone’s oppression
  5. Each had battled an offender
  6. Each displayed phenomenal inner strength
  7. Each was a hero / an inspiration to those who heard their story

That prompts Javed Akhtar to ask and analyse thus:-

  • If each one of us is a victim of someone else’s oppression; if each one of is a defender of someone else’s offences – then the all-important question is: WHO OFFENDS? – Because there is not a single person in this world who has ever spoken about himself / herself as the `offender’, the `oppressor’ or the `tyrant’.
  • Every country has a Ministry of DEFENCE, never a Ministry of OFFENCE. We all say we create armies and acquire weapons to DEFEND ourselves, never to OFFEND others. Yet, wars are being fought, and lives are being lost every single day. So the same question plagues you: If we are all defending ourselves – who is the one offending us? And there are never any answers.
  • The answer lies within us. Hidden inside every victim & defender, is also an oppressor & an offender. In another person’s story, WE may be the tyrant and the offender that they have overcome to create their success story. And those who hear their version of what has transpired on them – will stand equally moved and inspired.
  • In a way, biographies are more rational and impartial than autobiographies. In our autobiography, we are always the hero.

A paragraph of Carl Jung comes to mind here:-

  • The mind is a beautiful organ. It is designed to help us survive, and take us to the end. Painful, hurtful and humiliating memories need to be modified or deleted. The CONSCIOUS mind holds within itself – the hurts, humiliations and offensive acts of OTHERS ONTO US. The SUBCONSCIOUS mind holds within itself – the hurts, humiliations and offensive acts of US ONTO OTHERS.
  • The subconscious mind is the rational and truthful counterpart of our illusionary earthly existence. So when it speaks and thoughts flow to the conscious mind – there is an urgent need to camouflage those messages or hide them – and in their space bring to the forefront the faults of others instead. Else our nervous system may risk a breakdown.
  • Hence, in a quick succession of events, the conscious mind suppresses the subconscious mind and what emerges is a success story where “we” the hero, have conquered “they” the villains.
  • And life goes on….
  • What is also important to note in Jung’s theory is that – those who constantly enact their victim status – are perhaps those, whose subconscious mind (the truth-keeper) is more active than those who do not do so. And that is a double edged sword – a blessing and a curse.

As Javed Akhtar beautifully sums up – at some point in time, we reach a stage where we wish to confront our subconscious mind. That is perhaps when our `Aap Beeti Lamhey’ – our autobiographical notes may actual show us up as the oppressor, the tyrant, the offender – and that is when we attain that symbolic state of MOKSH or REALISATION.

It’s so true that poetry can change the world – and even more true that a poet can change your perspective. #JavedAkhtar take a bow.

To Serve, And Not To Be Served

To Serve, And Not To Be Served

TO SERVE, AND NOT TO BE SERVED is a poster that caught my eye at Bethany Trust Hospital in Thane (Mumbai). It is a quote from the Bible that has been adapted as the mission statement by the hospital’s founding father: Dr. Stephen Alfred.

Today, the quote resurfaced in my mind and set me thinking into different tangents.

Tangent 1:  I have often heard the word SERVICE being grossly misused. The very fact that you are able to say “I served”, “I am serving” – implies an urge to be recognized for what you are doing; you are operating from ego; your inner self is craving for a compensation; failing which you feel short-changed; this makes you bitter; and resentment sets in. Resentment has a very tangible vibe – you can see it, hear it, feel it, touch it. And there dies your emotion of service even before you started.

Tangent 2:  SERVICE WITH A SMILE is a misnomer of a phrase. Service HAS to come with a smile. SERVICE and BEING HAPPY TO SERVE are like conjoint twins. Though separate in definitions, one cannot exist without the other. Constant complaining about how much we are serving, and how little we are being appreciated for it, is simply a social application requesting for martyrdom and sainthood.

Tangent 3:  Service is truly a quality of enlightened souls and noble professions. If you are not even remotely there in spirit, don’t use the word. If you do insist on using the word with reference to yourself – then be sure to set a benchmark that others will have to stretch to touch.

Tangent 4:  SERVICE is performed at 2 very important stages of life’s evolution:

One – at the lowest rung of the ladder where we begin our climb into human evolution. This is our first stage of self discovery. We are devoid of any other skill or talent with the help of which, we can survive and sustain our body and spirit. Hence, we enter into service of others, we follow their command, nourish them, nurture them, help them, do their bidding – and in return we are given a little something to keep us going through life. There are no expectations or demands, and no dissatisfaction with whatever is handed out to us. The soul affirmation here is: YOU ARE THE MASTER, I AM THE SERVANT.

Two – at the highest rung of the ladder where we reach self actualization. This is the last stage of self discovery. We have been through several journeys of life, beginning at the lowest. With each successive lifetime, we move towards self reliance. We depend a little less on others, and a little more on ourselves. It is in the furtherance of this process of self reliance that we learn skills and develop talents. Finally in some lifetime will come a moment, where we become masters of our own destiny. We have done all that there is to do, and we have with us all that can be had. This is the top most rung of the ladder of human evolution. From here, we have the vantage point of looking down and seeing struggling souls trying to climb up, and helpless souls that need our attention. And in a swift moment of decision – we give it all away, we climb down back to the lowest rung – AND WE SERVE. The soul affirmation here is: I AM THE MASTER, I AM THE SERVANT.

So before we use this precious word – SERVE / SERVICE – it is important to do a self analysis of the stages of life that we are in. If we aren’t in any of these two stages of human evolution, then chances are, that what we are doing for others is merely an act of compulsion that can be better defined with synonyms like duty and responsibility – or perhaps, acts in return of compensation required for sustenance and survival.

That’s the rule. And every rule will have an exception. The exception being – LOVE. Love overrides all rules. At whichever phase of human evolution you may be – if your act of doing something for someone, is coming from an overwhelming feeling of pure love – then rest assured, that in that moment, you are delivering the highest form of soul service.

Tangent 5:  Flip the coin, and you will see another side – BEING SERVED. This is when you are the recipient of service given. The pertinent questions here are: Are you a good receiver? Do you deserve to be served?

I found many answers to these questions while sitting in hospital lounges waiting for the doctors to see you. Those in medical need are called `patients’ – but I have observed scant patience in any that I have seen. There is an arrogance in the receiver waiting to be served. There are utterances of what we are paying/giving in return, there are demands, there are threats, there are complaints, there are accusations, there is fault finding. All this, without a thought or concern for that one person who puts his/her personal part of life on a back-burner, simply so you can be well again. My question is: Do you deserve to be served? And why? What is the justification?

I think being served requires humbleness, the ability to accept whatever is given, and wisdom not to demand what cannot be given. Being served – requires a complete crushing of human ego. As does the act of – to serve. Perhaps, when – serving and served – meet each other in total humility of body and spirit, then – SERVICE – in the true sense of the word takes place. Till then, introspection is the key.

Personally – I place myself in a very middle stage of human evolution. I make no claims to the top rung of the ladder. I have come some distance up, and I have a long way to go still.

Bottom line: Service is a stage of the highest soul evolution. Practice it before you expect it. Practice it before you preach it. To make a beginning – retrospect into your past and introspect into your present. Your mind has all the questions. Your heart has all the answers.

What’s In A Name?

WHAT’S IN A NAME?

“A rose by any other another name would still smell the same…” so penned Shakespeare in Romeo & Juliet.

So what’s in name, we may ask. There is lot in a name, actually.

Names are a cluster of sound vibrations; a bunch of phonetics strung together. It’s usually something we receive at birth; most of us seldom change it; and it goes with us into our grave.

From the time we are born, a series of emotions & experiences keep energizing our name, giving it a certain character. As we live through life, we go through circumstances & situations that make us what we are; these experiences (successes / failures) are identified with our name; recollection & memories further etch these deeper into our name.

So at some point in time – our name assumes an identity of its own; a separate behavior pattern associated with that name comes into being; and our name defines who we are. Try as we may, we find it difficult to move away from everything & anything that defines what our name stands for. The energy of our name becomes stronger than the energy of our being.

AN EXPERIMENT

About 2 months back, I downloaded a chat application on my phone.

As a rule, I’m absolutely against mindless phone / internet chatting; I perceive it to be a criminal waste of time, especially if nothing important needs to be shared at either end; I don’t have this urge to just keep on greeting & meeting people every day, even if only in the virtual world. Perhaps it has something to do with the introverted side of my nature.

But I do like checking out new applications, if only to test the extent to which technology has evolved. And in that context, I downloaded Hike; another usual run-of-the-mill chat app.

But this is not about software applications, it’s about something else. I changed my name here – out of sheer boredom & the fact that I was absolutely not intending to connect with anyone in this space.

Simran. Inspired by that iconic dialogue – Jaa Simran jaa, jee le apni zindagi – in the iconic voice of Amrish Puri, from that iconic movie – Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge. That’s the name I enlisted with. Absolutely tongue-in-cheek; but with a nagging curiosity that asked – how exactly would I react to identification with a different name.

THE RESULTS

  • I created a test group of mom, dad & brother to understand the application better.
  • Surprisingly, it turned out to be the most active family thread – amongst all my other applications. With no extra effort from my side, conversation just flows; arguments are quickly resolved & humor falls back in place; more news is shared; more connectivity has happened.
  • On a chat app, where I wasn’t intending to have any more contacts or conversations, apart from my above-mentioned test group, I have surprisingly got linked to people who otherwise have been quite distant on my radar so far; people from far behind in the past, people who I haven’t actively searched for, people from different cities… And conversation threads have been smoothly picked up from where they were last left off.
  • Whether family or friends the most distinctive feature of name change has been absence of conflict. That – kind of forced me to think – has it anything to do with the name?

AN OLD INDIAN TRADITION

How often have we heard of people taking on new names: When people move to new countries; when people move into new phases of life; when people want to move away from their past; when authors prefer pen-names – and sometimes mavericks like me who like to experiment with something new. It’s not that uncommon.

In Gujarat – my adopted hometown, a custom (which is now redundant) prevailed – a girl changes her name after marriage. Personally, it has been a custom I have always derided & looked down upon, as something that forces a girl to change her identity; lose sense of she is & what she has worked for till now, and merge with a name that will now be chosen by someone else.

But today, I would want to analyze this custom in a different way. The ideology behind this may have been thus:

  • At different milestones in life, it is important to leave past baggage behind & begin afresh. Past baggage is usually experiences & emotions attached, from your past.
  • Some baggage may be good, some exceptional, some baggage may be bad, some best forgotten – but the more you add on & carry – the heavier you walk along life’s path.
  • To understand new experiences with fresh insights – it is important to rest the past somewhere. The past is also still you – and you can go back to relive it whenever you like – but what has happened in the past should not color your experiences of the future. Hence, in a small way, you start afresh; you begin a new chapter on a new page. And it’s a whole new experience.
  • In Hinduism, when we opt for renunciation from worldly life, and wish to walk towards becoming a sadhu / sadhvi (monk / nun) – then again, the pre-requisite is: that we leave our old name behind, with all its good / bad baggage – and move forward to new experiences with a new assumed name.
  • In a way, you are unknotting the attachment of old strings that will give you more space to weave & hold on to new strings.

KHORSHED BHAVNAGRI’S – LAWS OF THE SPIRIT WORLD

Laws of the Spirit World – is a book penned by Khorshed Bhavnagri, apparently from data received through her dead sons, through the medium of automatic writing. I have read the book. It opens your thinking in more ways than one. Immensely churning, well written and insightful – it covers dialogues on birth, death, after life, rebirth & laws of karma. I recommend a read.

Khorshed Bhavnagri mentions in the pages of her book, that:

  • We all have a soul name. It is our master name, and it is used by higher beings to access our karmic records from the very first experience of our soul, from its very first lifetime – to what we are today.
  • Our soul name – is a name that we do not receive in any of our lifetimes, except the penultimate ones before final nirvana / moksh – where we are allowed full access to our past information. Those will perhaps be lifetimes where we would have evolved to selfless sainthood, and working for betterment of mankind.
  • By a strange coincidence, guided by destiny, we also do not receive the same name of our past life, in a present birth. The idea being – past name will bring recollections of past baggage – and past baggage & past memories will weigh you down from doing justice to your present.
  • Often, we come down to re-work relationships & situations that may have gone bad in the past – and for this it is important that we begin on a neutral note, a clean slate so to say. So apparently, destiny does everything in its capacity to ensure that we do not restart with the same name.
  • In a way, it also explains our urges / liking / attraction towards certain names. Perhaps in a distant past, we have lived with that name; much in the same way we are attracted to certain places around us & across the world – places where we may have written past destinies.
  • We are in a constant flux to reclaim our past – and our urges guide us there. If destiny deems us ready to do so, then it allows us that reclaim – if not, then we are gently steered away, till we are deemed more ready to receive that past, into our present.

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Rename. Refresh. Restart. Reboot. Renew. It’s still you.

The *Khobragade* In All Of Us

THE *KHOBRAGADE* IN ALL OF US

This tagline is inspired from today’s Times of India edit column.

Devyani Khobragade, an Indian diplomat to USA, made headlines last year when she faced charges of fraud, for misrepresenting details in her maid’s visa application. The nation witnessed a sharp divide both ways – for & against.

To me `Khobragade’ as a person means nothing; but `Khobragade’ in my mind has become synonymous with a way of thinking.

Before I explain myself, allow me to quote from the Times of India articles that set me thinking.

TOI / June 2, 2014 / Radhika Vaz / Edit / Quoted

…. The urban Indian is willing to put aside all his differences to stand united with one another against his servant …. How else can we explain the support Devyani got from us as a nation …. The accusation against her is that she fudged documents so that she could import a maid, and she got caught …. And educated Indians everywhere rushed to her defense, completely ignoring the plight of her maid …. Is it because we think our servants are less than us, or because we want to keep them in their place, or both? …. In the end it doesn’t matter, we are all complicit in perpetrating social separation. The kind America experienced during segregation; the kind South Africa experienced with apartheid; the kind India experienced during pre-independence with British ruler class & we, their servant class ….

TOI / June 2, 2014 / Preet Bharara / US Attorney General / Quoted

…. That was not so pleasant, I was upset as a normal human being might be, then the accusations got more absurd, they became downright comical …. Indian critics were angry because even though I hailed from India, I appeared to be acting American, and was acting to serve the interests of America; which was odd, because I am American, and my title does say US Attorney General …. It wasn’t the crime of the century but it was a serious crime nonetheless …. State dept opened the case, investigated it, career prosecutors approved criminal charges – but it became an international case ….

WHAT THE WORD `Khobragade’ MEANS FOR ME:

Like I said in the very beginning, what Devyani Khobragade did, or what India thought about her, is of no consequence to me. That is a matter on which much has been said & done.

For me the word `Khobragade’ has come to mean `a conflict in thinking’. For me `Khobragade’ has become synonymous with the 2 demons that are forever playing tug-of-war in our mind – Loyalty & Rationality. Or should I say – Loyalty v/s Rationality.

LOYALTY v/s RATIONALITY

At a macro level – the last 6 months for India have witnessed incredible polarization of views, emotions & passions. And somewhere down the line – everything that we said, in defense or in prosecution, was tainted with a loyalty that had clearly moved away from rationality.

When we spoke for a cause or a person – we spoke with the loyalty of heightened passions – clearly stamping on evidence to the contrary & hoping that the louder our voices became, the easier it would be to drown all voices of dissent & doubt.

At the other extreme, when we spoke against a cause or a person – we spoke with the loyalty of conscience keepers, patrons of truth, moral police et al – clearly magnifying all available evidence to make it look more ghastly & more ghoulish than it may have been.

  • This man is our savior.
  • This man is a butcher.
  • You are annihilating my religion.
  • No, you are humiliating my religion.
  • My religion is secular.
  • Your religion is discriminatory.
  • The ones that left sold our country.
  • The ones that will come will make us a super power.
  • That channel has sold its soul (views anti to our own).
  • That anchor is anti nationalist (views anti to our own).
  • This channel gives correct information (views matching to our own).
  • This anchor is nationalist (views matching to our own).
  • That CM must resign.
  • That CM is a neighboring stooge.
  • Kill kill kill. Resign resign resign.
  • Win win win. Lose lose lose.
  • So what if she fudged her certificates.
  • Oh she fudged her certificates, drag her through the streets.
  • And so on it goes on…

Either way, when our pendulum swings to the extremes, it is loyalty personified at that end – but when our pendulum rests in the middle, even for a brief pause, we have a chance at testing our rationality.

At a micro level – the % of loyalty & rationality in your day to day expressions will determine the health & length of your communication with others, and with own your inner self.

WHERE IT ALL BEGINS – LOYALTY IS REWARDED & RATIONALITY IS PUNISHED

  • We are taught very early in life – *to be loyal*.
  • How I wish that 1st lesson had taught us: to be loyal to ourselves.
  • How I wish that 1st lesson had taught us: that you cannot believe in others unless you believe in yourself first.
  • How I wish that 1st lesson had taught us: be loyal to your thoughts; test your thoughts; and create a set of personal ideologies that result from that testing.
  • How I wish that 1st lesson had taught us: believe in ideas, not in people; that way you will know when to pat on the back & when to slap on the wrists.
  • How I wish that 1st lesson had taught us: to be loyal to the principles of religion & not religion per se.
  • Yes, how I wish… how I wish…

But wishes are not horses & beggars don’t ride. The reality of our formal & informal *education*is something like this:

  • Family is God. Hence: my mother, father, brother, sister can do no wrong. End of rationality.
  • We grow older. My school is the best. Hence: my teachers can teach nothing wrong. End of rationality.
  • We grow still older. My college, my university, my friends, my girlfriend, my boyfriend, my spouse, my child, my organisation, my boss, my job: all flawless.
  • In fact, we go through workshops, seminars & training programs to further *instill loyalty* into us, until the last shred of rationality is sucked out.
  • God forbid, if we dare to see the other side of the coin, then we become *traitors*.
  • So what has essentially happened is: from the time we are born to the age we are today – for every show of *loyalty* we have received a reward that further pushes us to exhibit the same behavior.
  • And for every show of *rationality* we have been mercilessly slapped on our wrists & branded as fickle / traitors / cheaters / defectors by our parents, siblings, friends, girlfriends, boyfriends, spouses, bosses & even countrymen.

THE LOYALTY EFFECT

To sum it up: Loyalty has a *pro* word attached to it. Pro-family, pro-commitment, pro-friends, pro-society, pro-progress, pro-organization, pro-hierarchy, pro-religion, pro-national, pro-humanity, pro-God…

Oxford definition aside, `Loyalty’ is a word that has become synonymous with reverence / worship / integrity character.

So basically: Good human beings are essentially loyal; you are trained to look at the good in a person / organization / idea & turn a blind eye to the bad; you are trained not to make corrections or improvements, or else you risk slipping in your ratings.

We idolize people, relationships, institutions, organizations rather than – the values-in-a-person, the depth-of-a-relationship, the strength-of-an-institution, the learning-from-an-organization.

We become conditioned to perceive change as a threat that will shake the foundation, rather than an opportunity to strengthen the same. We become complacent because neither are we expected to change nor are we trained to tolerate change in others.

Stagnation, boredom, suffocation sets in – and loyalty will destroy the very structure that it was carefully cultivated to protect.

THE RATIONALITY EFFECT

To sum it up: Rationality has an *anti* word attached to it. Anti-family, anti-commitment, anti-friends, anti-society, anti-progress, anti-organization, anti-hierarchy, anti-religion, anti-national, anti-humanity, anti-God…

Oxford definition aside, `Rationality’ is a word that is used synonymously with cold / severe / ruthless / selfish.

So basically: You are not allowed to change your views, analysis & perception about people, relationships, organizations, ideas & ideologies. If you have believed in something or someone once, you will have to continue to exert that belief till death. Should you wish to change or modify your perceptions – the world will write your obituary.

But when we move away from this fear – we become like the pendulum of a well oiled Grandfather-clock – we develop our skills to see both sides of a person / an idea / a situation.

We learn to separate the chaff from the grain & not throw away the baby with the bathwater. We can retain what is necessary & do away with what is not; that translates into bringing change into ourselves & encouraging others to change according to their inner ideologies.

We detach ourselves from a personalized perspective & move to an issue based perspective. For eg. – Instead of: “x is good, y is bad” – we move to: “that is good about x, and that is bad about x”; “that is good about y, and that is bad about y”.

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Subduing loyalty & encouraging rationality has been an urge with me from as far back as I can remember. And I have earned many tags & labels, and not so positive ones at that, on a/c of this.

But there are times when I sway heavily towards loyalty – shades of grey disappear, then it is either black or white – depending on whether I am for or against a person or an ideology. Then the suffocation with my own thought process sets in till I can’t breathe my own thoughts any more.

That’s when I take that inevitable breather. I breathe out loyalty, I breathe in rationality. And you what – it works every time.

The pendulum still swings – but it doesn’t stop at any end – it gently falls to the middle – allowing me to understand what lies in between – before swinging to the other end, for a different perspective – and then gently back again into the middle. Not a result, a process. And a continuous one at that.

 

How Did These Women Manage? This Ornament Called Nose-Ring ?

HOW DID THESE WOMEN MANAGE? THIS ORNAMENT CALLED NOSE-RING?

Seriously, how did these women manage? These women from over generations to today? How have these Indian women managed this Indian custom of wearing a nose-ring?

After my own experience, I’m in awe, wonderstruck, speechless & humbled.

For all women who are aspiring to get a nose-ring with nose-piercing done – please observe the intricacies involved:-

  1. It adorns the pride of the face. The nose is the central attraction of the face. While the nose-ring can add an extra touch of character & beauty to your face – any irritation / abrasion / reaction can also mar the entire face, no matter how pretty you may be.
  2. Unlike ears & earrings, the nose-ring has half of its ornament in the inner side of a nose (nostril) – which is extremely inaccessible & almost invisible. It is tricky to reach, remove or adjust.
  3. Then, there are hygiene factors involved. Extreme care needs to be taken to keep the nostril clean & obstruction free, so that no infection centers around the foreign nasal object.
  4. Added to this, if you have got your nose piercing done on the left side, it becomes a tougher proposition. Most of us are right handed, so it is easier for us to adjust things on the right side. But when it comes to your left nostril – your right hand lacks maneuverability & your left hand is not deft enough.
  5. Then, when you wash your face or moisturize it – which is like 10 times in summer – you have to be careful about toweling it.
  6. And if you are prone to chronic sinusitis & rhinitis like me – then you have seriously had it. Any nasal inflammation will trigger swelling in & around the nose-ring; and that can trigger pain. And most likely than not, your ENT specialist will advise you with a grim expression to `get rid of it if you can’.
  7. All of the above happened with me but I have held onto it, my precious diamond nose-stud, so far, with the grit & determination of our PM-in-waiting.
  8. In addition, I had some extra inconveniences too. May I add those in too, for good measure.
  9. My nose-piercing was done with a gold wire by a seasoned goldsmith; a neat job I must admit. He gave me a diamond at the end of a thin gold wire – and after piercing, he pulled the wire inwards into the nostril with a small pliers & rolled it, so as to lock it. Good job actually.
  10. After 15 days, I needed to readjust the positioning of the wire to my comfort – and that’s when I realized that it was practically impossible to figure out in what direction the wire inside lay, or the manner in which it was rolled & locked.
  11. And when I had my next bout of sinusitis, it was absolute chaos. I needed to sneeze frequently, and every time I did, it disturbed the wire inside my nostril, which in turn disturbed the positioning of the diamond on the outside & I had to painstakingly set it right.
  12. I have a manicure kit with me, purchased some 15 long years back. It has a set of 10 small surgical-like tools, fashioned from surgical steel. The best I have ever seen yet. I picked & chose from these tools, to handle that ubiquitous astray wire inside my nose. All ok so far. I managed very well.
  13. Panic set in, when about few days back, when left nostril had a swelling. Then the nose-stud really began to hurt & I needed to remove it for temporary relief. When I went to the jeweler, he was as clueless as me regards positioning of the wire. But he was helpful enough to say, that he was experienced enough, and if I could endure the pain, he would fiddle around with his pliers, and try & get it off. Scary proposition & I ran for my life, and my nose.
  14. I was already in a state of worry that all that tugging & pulling over 40 days would have surely torn the pierced hole wider & perhaps scarred the area too – which would become evident once I removed the stud. The pain & swelling increased each passing day – then I gritted myself & got around to it. I had to do this myself. Either that – or get it surgically removed. I chose the former.
  15. Choosing a day where I would be alone & undisturbed, with my set of sterilized tools & a small bottle of surgical spirit, I lay down on the couch. And over a time span of over 4 hours, slowly & steadily – I figured out the positioning of the wire; the way it had been bent & rolled. By now it was quite mangled, but somehow, with the grace of God Almighty & my mom’s encouragement and belief that I could do it – I slowly unraveled the wire to its full length.
  16. The next job was to gently pull it outwards. This was no mean task; the wire was no longer straight; it was springy & wavy. As I started pulling it outwards, I realized that the wire had got sealed in membranes of skin & hence was stuck. So gentle pulling couldn’t do the trick. It had to be slowly but firmly yanked out, with force. With every deep breath, I managed 1 tug. When it reached the very end, it just refused to budge. For a moment I thought I couldn’t do it & would need professional help – but I gave it that 1 last final try & tugged it out in a single shot. Along with a gush of blood, it was finally out.
  17. The relief was more than the horror. I swabbed the inside & outside of my nose with surgical spirit, and waited till all the loose blood had run into the cotton. Then I got up & dared to look at the mirror – from a distance of about 3 feet. No trace of what happened. I came closer to 1 foot – absolute normal looking nose. I went for a close up – no mark, no scar & surprisingly no hole piercing visible. It was as if nothing ever happened.
  18. With a huge sense of relief & gratitude, I allowed 2 days to pass for complete healing. Friends who saw me quipped: Oh it wasn’t real was it? If it was, then where is the hole? – Then there were those who said: Never mind, you tried, it didn’t work out, don’t go for it again.
  19. The story is not over yet. Just hang on for few more sentences.
  20. On day 3, I checked for the hole-piercing with a magnifying glass. It was there. If it was that microscopic, then chances are it would fill itself with skin membranes over next few days. I couldn’t afford to lose it, not after all the effort I made to get it.
  21. So, I meticulously straightened the mangled wire of my diamond nose ring. Then I snipped off its extra length with a sharp scissors. I cut the wire to the exact size required for my nose – so there wouldn’t be any need to roll it or fold it. Then I gave it a slight bend in the shape of a 7 & voila – it’s back in my nose. I know exactly where & which position it sits now; and I can remove it & put it back with ease.
  22. Crazy, people might say. And crazy it is too. But it is one of the things that I did with courage & conviction, and I have no intention of letting all that effort come to naught. This grit & determination is a genetic gift from my mother – and it has seen me through all my downs & ups in life – always bringing me to a place of peace, calm, contentment & quiet achievement.
  23. Whatever it was that seeded this thought into my mind – remarkable inception I must say. I’m trying to recollect who or what exactly: I need to send a bill for reimbursement for expenses incurred & trauma suffered.
  24. All is well that ends well. My advice: If it is not part of your custom & if it’s not mandatory that you have one – unless you are drop-dead convinced that you want a nose-ring – avoid it – or go for other it as an informed choice.

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It is easy to pass remarks, comments & judgments over things we have never practiced or experienced.

In the context of our current political scenario – it is easy to sit in our drawing rooms & news rooms, and run down everything the man-at-the-top does. But think for a second –would you be able to handle that pressure, those permutations & combinations, those intricacies involved – even for a single day?